The lady at home” Henry Margetson ( 1861 – 1940 ) British Painter Reprint from The Memoirist   What Are You Going To Do When I’m Gone?    “Everybody dies.” Tony, my husband, didn’t like it very much when I said that. The two of us were up early driving through the flat cornfields of western Indiana. His sister Yolanda had called from Mexico the week before with the latest news about their mother. I had known Santos, my mother-in-law, for almost thirty years, sort of growing up right along with her ten children. My mind went into memory mode and I was there in her cocina. “Let’s eat. Ven…